This post questions the meaning behind genders. In no way is this scientifically backed, This is just a thought developed in my head and through conversation with a friend.
So let's say you the average person were to date say another average person of the opposite gender. You two are close, very intimate, You trust each other to a certain degree. You have been dating said person for two to three years now.
On one of these days you stumble upon information somehow finding out that the person you have been dating is not actually of the opposite gender at birth, but instead went through a sex change earlier in their life.
How would you react to this?
Talking with said friend mentioned earlier. She said that "if they have dated me for that long and still didn't tell me such an important thing then it wouldn't have worked anyway".
Probably a very common response a lot of you might have.
But instead of condemning this person for their actions what if, instead you took a step back and tried to understand why they would have done such a thing? Now if you both of you were actually in a relationship where one loves the other. Then their actions were not done to hurt you but instead was probably what they thought was the right thing to do, to protect the relationship you have.
They probably have felt afraid that this information would have ruined or changed things in how the relationship developed or maybe they truly felt that this information was unimportant.
No matter the reason we can only assume how another feels in the situation. Imagine the feeling that you are fault, You love this girl/boy with all your heart and you do everything you can to see them happy, But because you born of the same gender they would never accept you, The fear that if they find out you would lose this person, The person that makes you... oh so happy.
Let's learn to question people's reasoning behind their actions instead of acting out on emotion.
After all whether you like it or not, We are all human.
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